Advice NEEDED! I am in love with a man who is not on my level. he is not college educated, and i am.?
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Fact from fiction, truth from diction. If you love your b/f you love him. No matter how rich or poor he was. Or how smart or intelligent. You would except him AS IS, no improvement needed. I think you are not as sold on the b/f in your heart as your brain tries to keep telling you. If he won the lotto tomorrow it seem you would be happy to have him on board. But as it stand, you fear you will always be pulling most of the load. But then, isn't that what the fine women of N.O.W. has been fighting for? You can go with the doctor. Good luck with that. In the end, I think you will feel as though you settled on him(the doc)only because the b/f could not get from the out house to the penthouse. Why not try to help or show the b/f how to use what talent he has, or his passion to start a business where he can make money, be his own boss, and be doing something he loves? Be creative. Think outside-the-box. :-D
Oh man, women LOVE losers. You're totally attracted to his whole rebel thing, huh? Admit it, you are! That's cool though. I mean, 22 jobs in 4 years? Is that an exaggeration? That's a bad sign. And what's this about long distance crap? Does he have a 2,000 mile long dick? Drop him for the doctor (or you're dum. You won't even get the b.)
I don't know that you'll like this answer but it seems obvious to me. Dump the boyfriend. Yeah, you say you love him but there must be some doubt there or you wouldn't be posting this question. A college education isn't such a determining fact. So what? A lot of succesfull people didn't go to college. But that 22 jobs in four years thing has me baffled. What the hell is this guy's problem? I'm sure he has a rational reason why he left each of those jobs but the truth is that it's damn difficult to go through that many jobs unless you have serious issues. This guy isn't going to change any time soon. How long will you wait for him to get his act together? Take my advice. Don't wait. Give the doctor a try. You've already thought about it. Follow through.
I guess you should consider to take a break for a while... Go on vacation...visit new exotic places, meet new people. Share your stories with them and ask them to do that also.
When you get home, try to talk with your boy friend. share about those stories to him..
If he still stay with his weed-pets, well... go for the other guy. You deserves better..
If you really love your boyfriend then you would stick with him and try to make it work. He seems like he really loves you too ...to want to live closer to you and save up money. On the other hand you need security and a man should know how to take care of you as well. Maybe he needs to go to college and start over. You need to think about your future and what you really want. In the end its your decision and if this doctor guy makes you happy then break up with your bf. BUt think about what if one day your bf becomes successfull and is stable .just dont have any regrets coz life is unpredictable. Good luck and its no use stringing your bf along coz youre only gonna end up hurting the guy u love.
Hello Mary J,
Why won't you be fair with your heart and stay with the one you love? I am about to be a doctor myself, and I know how much investments and commitments that requires. You mention SECURE FUTURE, there is no secure future. Logically I would be in a favor of the guy who is a doctor, as I mentioned cause so I am gonna be myself and I would of course prefer a girl to choose me instead of someone who does not have a "secure future", but, there is no logic in love. I would advice you to stay with your current b/f, don't ruin a relationship because someones education and incomes are lower than yours. What matters is You Love Him, not for his money, education, but you love the "inner" him, and that is very pure, since a lot of girls start relationships with rich guys because of their money. Do not mention digits when talking about love. Ask yourself a question, what makes you happier, money or love?
You through the college education out in the open like it's something special. My dad had an 8th grade education, became an electronics engineer, knows every kind of math there is and never been to High School.
So now the deal really becomes making a list of what your expectations would be of a man in a relationship or your life. Write these down and evaluate each one against those expectations and figure out which one is more likely to fulfill them.
Do you really want to support the guy who had 22 different jobs in four years time for the rest of your life. I would probably say no. If it's genuine love and caring I would go with your heart. If you are after the money and financial security I would go with the doctor, you'd live more comfortably in life.
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