Thinking about moving in with girlfriend.?
So right now I'm 19 (20 in August) and she just turned 20, and we really are pretty close. Lately we've been thinking to move in with each other in possibly a year or two, into just a apartment or studio for now. I was just wondering if that would be considered too young, or if anyone who has done this has any suggestions.
Dude, go for it. The best thing is to live together to find out what its going to be like being with each other. That way there are no surprises when it comes down to a decision on marriage. Lets just keep the bank accounts separate for a while, however its a good thing to have one person balance the bill / budget.
you are not sure so leave it
if you didnt need to ask you would be ready
In a year or two you'll be working full time, perhaps even getting a steady income, by then you'll be 21- 22, and you'll want to move in to an apartment. I'd say go for it man! You may be young, but if the both of you are in for it, YOU GO BOY.
You're not to young.. If anything it will assist you in deciding where the relationship goes from this point on. Some people believe that they want to get married and are in love and so fourth, but once they move in together they learn that they are not compatible at all. I think that if both of you want it, do it!
I don't think you are ready for that kind of relationship. You guys are too young and a year is not as long of a time as you might think. When you both have graduated and have a stable career, that is when you should think about it.
wait for a while till the lust wares off(usually six months), usually when the novelty of sex wares off all these issues start poping up. if you're still going great after a long while then you should be fine. but remember the seven year rule, that is when all bad things start to happen. its only natural
CHECK INTO THE LEGALITIES OF IT ALL AND BE SURE BOTH OF YOU KNOW AND SIGN AN AGREEMENT STATING WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT EXPENSES AND SO FORTH. SOUNDS GREAT ! !
Holy crap, moving in with a chick is a ride, man.
That's when you find out the little things about each other that you never knew existed. This is good and bad, as you find out if you guys can really stand being with each other or not.
Bad news is, it's a hell of a commitment, and a girl ditching you with all of the rent in the middle of a lease is not fun my friend.
Also, prepare for losing a lot more of your personal time with friends. And when she turns 21, prepare for some stuff you don't even know is going to come your way. 19-20 isn't too young, but only because there really is no correct age. You'll be dealing with this for the rest of you life, all except the turning 21 part. After someone turns legal drinking age, a lot of their life changes, and it does so quickly.
Prepare my friend. My only advice is be yourself, and stick to your goals and morals. Don't change yourself for a chick
Ouuh. I've done it. No, it's not too young -- you're never too young to learn a hard lesson, really. ;-)
Well, it's not that bad. Just be clear about if moving in together does or does not represent a further commitment to the relationship (whether or not you admit it, I think psychologically it does). DO NOT mix your finances AT ALL. That's for married people. You will find out how much you love each other, because familiarity does breed contempt, and only real love lets you forgive it all.
Understand, if you can, that when you combine your household with another person for even a short time, if you do re-separate your households - even on good terms without a breakup - it will hurt to do it. If you break up, it'll be that much more painful because you were living together. But in my opinion, the knowledge you gain about your relationship and about how you live with another person is valuable enough that the risk of extra pain is worth it.
Some people would say you need more time to discover who you are and how you live alone. There is a lot of merit in that, too. It depends on the person. Go with your gut feeling. Do you feel like you gain something or lose it by moving in?
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